David Stamation, Executive Life Coach This quiz is not about being “right.” It’s about becoming aware .Take it slowly. Take it together. Let curiosity replace defensiveness. How to Take the Quiz Sit side-by-side with no distractions. Each of you answers every question privately  using this scale: 1 = Rarely | 2 = Sometimes | 3 = Often | 4 = Almost Always Do not  discuss answers while taking it. When finished, compare your scores and talk about what you notice. Your goal is no

David Stamation, Executive Life Coach This reflection comes from my marriage with Cynthia and the work we do alongside couples at The Love Retreat. It’s an exploration of masculine energy as grounded presence, not control and how that embodiment creates the polarity that deepens connection, trust, and passion. Where Passion Comes From As I’ve embodied my masculine energy more fully, something remarkable has happened: passion returned. Not forced passion. Not performative pass

by Cynthia Stamation A Note from Cynthia David’s article speaks about the masculine side of polarity and why initiation, planning, and leadership matter in relationship. What follows is the feminine completion. When a man steps forward to lead, something else must also happen for polarity and intimacy to return. This is the other half of the conversation. Includes a Quiz for women. When David wrote Men, Make Plans and Initiate , it brought language to a dynamic many couples

David Stamation, Executive Life Coach This blog explores how men unintentionally step back in relationships, creating tension and collapsing polarity and why initiating, planning, and leading restores connection, ease, and intimacy. Includes a quiz to reveal your default pattern. Restoring Polarity, Connection, and Leadership in Your Relationship As a husband, I’ve learned that the little things matter such as planning a date night, choosing the restaurant, deciding the outi

David Stamation, Executive Life Coach If attraction fades when polarity fades… what happens when both partners live in the same energy? The last blog post on this topic sparked significant discussion among clients and colleagues, making it clear that a deeper conversation is needed. Read it here . How Did We Get Here? In today’s world, women are assertive and in control of their lives both personally and professionally. This is a beautiful evolution, and I’ve championed it si

The Love Retreat Written by Cynthia & David Stamation, founders of The Love Retreat — guiding couples back to connection through polarity, safety, and shared growth. When “Group” Becomes the Gateway to Connection If you’ve ever considered joining a couples retreat and hesitated the moment you heard the words “group experience,” you’re not alone. It’s natural to want privacy. To want the weekend to be about just the two of you, without eyes, opinions, or outside energy. But w

David Stamation, Executive Life Coach Wow. Just wow. It’s hard to put into words what unfolded at The Love Retreat 2025 , but if there’s one thing I can say with absolute certainty, it’s this: the depth of transformation was beyond anything we imagined. Over three days, we witnessed couples break through walls that had been standing for years, discover truths about themselves and each other, and walk away more connected, more aligned, and more in love than when they arrived.

David Stamation, Executive Life Coach One of the unexpected gifts of this health crisis has been seeing how Cynthia and I communicate—and how we treat each other—when everything feels uncertain. It revealed the bones of our relationship: the strength of our connection, and how much emotional fluency matters when life turns upside down. There were moments when I didn’t feel like her husband. I felt like a dependent version of myself—a patient, even a child—someone being taken

David Stamation, Executive Life Coach Part 2 In many relationships today, a subtle but powerful dynamic often emerges as women feeling more like caretakers than partners. The question is worth asking—does the man want a wife , or is he unconsciously seeking a mommy ? At its core, this isn't about infantilizing men or mocking vulnerability. Rather, it's a call to examine patterns that too often go unspoken. Too many women find themselves shouldering the emotional labor of a...

David Stamation, Executive Life Coach While on my current health sabbatical, I found myself reflecting deeply on how much I’ve come to rely on my wife during this time of cancer treatment. There were moments when I didn’t feel like her husband—I felt like a dependent little boy being mothered. And that troubled me. In full disclosure I had a similar health sabbatical 4 years ago to treat the same cancer. This BLOG is a current update and thoughts for August 2025. I’m used to

David Stamation, Executive Life Coach Friendship dynamics evolve significantly from childhood to adulthood. In our school years, friendships seemed to effortlessly form through shared activities on the playground, after school bike rides, or getting into mischief together. It felt almost magical, easy, and effortless, and we didn't fully comprehend how it happened. As adults, particularly men, the quest for that seemingly elusive magic to forge new friendships can be perplexi

by Cynthia Stamation, Founder of Legacy Life Consulting At Legacy Life Consulting, part of our tagline is simple, but powerful: Live without regret.  It’s more than a motto. It’s a way of being. Life is a precious gift, and yet most people only come to fully realize that truth when something shakes them—an unexpected diagnosis, a loss, a crossroads they never saw coming. Mortality suddenly becomes real, and with it comes the question: Am I truly living the life I came here to

Wow. Just wow. It’s hard to put into words what unfolded at The Love Retreat 2025 , but if there’s one thing I can say with absolute certainty, it’s this: the depth of transformation was beyond anything we imagined. Over three days, we witnessed couples break through walls that had been standing for years, discover truths about themselves and each other, and walk away more connected, more aligned, and more in love than when they arrived. A Safe Space for Growth One of the mos

Agreements keep life organized, whether in business or at home. Some are clear and explicit, while others are vague assumptions. While agreements provide stability, they can also create feelings of obligation, resentment, or emotional burden over time. You can make them with friends, children, spouses, and in work settings. Take the Quiz to assess how you approach agreements. Are Your Agreements Serving You? Next time you fulfill a task or commitment, check in with yourself—

If Men Are to Make Plans, Women Need to Make Space The last blog post on this topic sparked significant discussion among clients and colleagues, making it clear that a deeper conversation is needed. Read it here . How Did We Get Here? In today’s world, women are assertive and in control of their lives both personally and professionally. This is a beautiful evolution, and I’ve championed it since I was 15, watching my mother navigate a male-dominated world. Her strength and re

As a husband, I’ve learned that the little things matter—planning a date night, deciding on an outing, or even choosing what’s for dinner. Early in my marriage, I sometimes found myself stepping back, thinking I was being easygoing by letting my wife take the lead. But over time, I noticed something: when I wasn’t making decisions, it created tension. She didn’t want to always be the one in charge—she wanted to relax into her feminine, knowing I had things handled. Not sure i

Love, like all living things, needs tending. It’s not a stagnant entity, but a dynamic force that grows, evolves, and sometimes falters under the weight of life’s complexities. This realization is what inspired The Love Retreat  — a space for couples to rediscover, rekindle, and reimagine the essence of their connection. Calibrated to You When couples arrive at The Love Retreat,  they often bring a spectrum of emotions. Some feel a quiet yearning for the spark that once burne

This is the second article in a series written from both ‘his’ and ‘hers’ perspectives. In the previous post, David shared his insights on embodying the masculine energy in our relationship. You can read his blog here . When I first heard about the importance of balancing masculine and feminine energy in a relationship, I didn’t fully understand it. I assumed that feminine energy meant being soft, passive, or yielding, which didn’t resonate with me. I saw myself as strong, dr

This is the first in a series written from a ‘his’ and ‘hers’ perspective. Next week Cynthia will share her perspective on the feminine. Read her blog here . When Cynthia and I first began learning about masculine and feminine energy, I didn’t think much of it beyond the usual associations. To me, masculine energy was about strength, providing, maybe even protecting. Over time, I realized it was something deeper. Embracing my masculine energy became less about fitting into tr

I once had a problem with anger until I used personal development to get a handle on it. I stopped scaring people and started feeling more peaceful inside. Diving into this misunderstood emotion, I spent years studying how it keeps us from having what we want in life, and I saw great results. Here is my condensed study on anger. I hope it helps you decide to make a change or softens how you see yourself and the triggers for your anger. If someone close to you is struggling wi