Couples Quiz. How Aligned Are You as a Team?
- David Stamation
- 3 days ago
- 2 min read
David Stamation, Executive Life Coach
This quiz is not about being “right.” It’s about becoming aware.Take it slowly. Take it together. Let curiosity replace defensiveness.
How to Take the Quiz
Sit side-by-side with no distractions.
Each of you answers every question privately using this scale:
1 = Rarely | 2 = Sometimes | 3 = Often | 4 = Almost Always
Do not discuss answers while taking it.
When finished, compare your scores and talk about what you notice.
Your goal is not agreement, it’s understanding.
Questions
We openly talk about what we want from our future together.
I feel emotionally safe sharing my real thoughts and feelings with my partner.
When conflict arises, we stay connected rather than withdrawing or attacking.
We feel like we’re on the same team when life gets stressful.
I feel deeply seen and understood by my partner.
We make intentional time for connection, not just logistics.
We recover quickly after disagreements.
Our energy feels polarized in a healthy way, there’s attraction, not just routine.
We support each other’s growth, even when it’s uncomfortable.
I feel hopeful and excited about where our relationship is headed.
Scoring
Add your numbers.
Individual Score Range: 10–40
Then look at two things:
Your personal total
The gap between your scores
Both matter.
Results Profiles
34–40 — Deeply Aligned
You share trust, direction, and emotional safety.
Your opportunity: deepen polarity, presence, and play. Great relationships become extraordinary through intention.
26–33 — Connected but Coasting
You care, but some areas feel muted or mechanical.
Your opportunity: reignite emotional truth and direction before distance quietly grows.
18–25 — Out of Sync
You may love each other yet feel misaligned or unseen.
Your opportunity: learn how to reconnect without blame or shutdown.
10–17 — Disengaged or Guarded
Disconnection is likely shaping your dynamic.
Your opportunity: rebuild safety, honesty, and shared vision.
The Alignment Gap
0–4 points difference: You see the relationship similarly.
5–8 points: One of you is experiencing more connection than the other.
9+ points: You may be living in different emotional realities.
This isn’t a verdict. It’s a map.
Reflect Together
Where were we most aligned?
Where did we differ most?
What conversation does this invite?
The strongest relationships aren’t conflict-free.
They’re intentional.
Take the quiz together, then experience transformation in real time at The Love Retreat.
Our Intention
Our intention with this quiz is simple and sincere: to give you a gentle path back to each other. Not through fixing, diagnosing, or proving a point, but through pausing and slowing. Through listening and remembering that you are on the same side.
We hope it invites curiosity, softens defenses, and reminds you that alignment is something you practice, not something you either have or don’t.
May this be a small but meaningful step toward deeper connection.